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Wish you were here
Written by Paula Backen on February 20, 2012Comments

Every month I facilitate a three day programme which changes lives.  The people who have attended send me emails, call me, and write testimonials about the different ways they are experiencing their emotions and the resultant behaviours after the weekend.  Of course it's not an instant miracle solution - there needs to be some hard work by each person to integrate the new ideas into their lives.    For some people that's a few months, and for others it's a life-time work. 

In recovery

A bit like recovering from an addiction of any kind, or changing a life-time pattern of behaviour, there are new strategies to learn. For example, recognising the sources of your anger, seeing them coming along and understanding their meaning before you react.  Appreciating that anger is there to protect you, as a safety mechanism.  Understanding the effects of stress on your potential for unhealthy anger.

 Then there's learning new ways to express your emotions. A new vocabulary that ensures those around you...

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Anger Management Specialist Takes Care of Trauma
Written by Julian Hall on February 16, 2012Comments

Beating Anger Derby has started offering trauma therapy to Derby and the surrounding area. Julian Hall of Beating Anger Derby said “a large proportion of our clients suffer from deep trauma in their lives. This is not the whole cause of their anger but is a key part of the work they need to address. For a long time we have referred these clients on to other therapists but now we are able to offer it in house.”

Trauma can affect everyone and covers a wide spectrum of events that are out of our control. In brief it is a deeply distressing or disturbing experience. It can be an emotional shock following a stressful event or a physical injury. It can be a physical shock and sometimes leads to long-term neurosis. Classic traumas are life threatening events, molestation, abuse and rape. If you have not suffered any of those it does not mean that you have not been traumatised. The pace of change in life in general and they way issues such as divorce and separation are dealt with can lead to individuals feeling traumatised.

Julian says “we wanted to offer this service to our...

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I really like this work
Written by Paula Backen on February 12, 2012Comments

Variety

I have a chequered career in terms of variety. I've worked in catering, agriculture, laundries, retail, hospitals and a techi company to name just a few! I've also lived in many places, both abroad and in the UK.

And I have generally only stayed in a job while I was enjoying it, so not many regrets and lots of really great experiences.

Enjoy

But this work with BAAM beats many of them. I really enjoy feeling I am doing something that has a benefit to other people. I really love understanding and learning more every day, from the people I meet and the training I do.

Making a difference

Yesterday I thought about this a lot. The programme material we deliver seems to open eyes and help clients look at the world afresh. All sorts of people.

Yes, our programmes are not just for people desperate to sort their unhealthy anger. Our programme material is valued by experienced counsellors who want to learn more about themselves, by senior managers who want to get better at dealing with tough conversations, and by parents who want to help their children express their emotions...

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Angry Teens or should that be Tweens?
Written by Linda Bolland on February 8, 2012Comments

Here's an article I've just written, featured in YourDocMedical.co.uk

Having just attended a one day workshop on the Challenges of Teenagers, I’m keenly reminded of the difficult position this age group occupies.  Caught in the middle of Childhood and Adulthood, this age group, which can begin as early as 9 and go on somewhere past 19+, is in the insecure position of ‘transition’.  The brain and body is undergoing a rapid period of growth, rivalled only by the early stages of infancy and toddlerhood.  Indeed theorists call this period the ‘second individuation’, the first being when a toddler begins to assert his/her independence from parents both physically and wilfully. 

Individuation
As we know this is exactly what a young person must do in order to develop into a fully fledged adult in life.  Move away from Mum and Dad, Care Home or Foster Parents in order to become independent.  But what are the conditions from which this independence must form?

Research has shown that the seeds for successful independence are sown in the first individuation or toddler stage of life. If a...

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IS SMACKING CHILDREN AN EFFECTIVE FORM OF DISCIPLINE?
Written by Julian Hall on January 19, 2012Comments

Coronation Street hit the headlines this week when Owen Armstrong smacked his stepdaughter in Monday night’s episode.

Smacking children has always been a controversial and emotive subject. MP John Cumming was quoted as saying that it is better that a child is disciplined than to grow up ‘untamed’. I believe that there are far more effective ways of disciplining a child.

All children need clear boundaries and positive parenting ensures that children are clear about what constitutes acceptable behaviour at every stage of their development. At every age, from toddler through to teenager, children will push their parents and carers to the limit, but this is designed to test the boundaries, and clear boundaries and consistent sanctions actually help children feel safe; a teenager pushing to stay out late at a party may actually be looking for their parent to say no in order to avoid losing face with their peers by admitting they don’t want to GO.

Smacking a child, on the other hand, is an abuse of parental power on every level, especially if smacking in anger. This is both physically abusive and also shows a complete loss of control,...

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Stressful January Linked to Increased Anger and Health Issues in Women
Written by Mike Fisher on January 5, 2012Comments

Let’s be honest, the prospect of returning to work after Christmas is unlikely to fill you with anything other than dread. In fact, when you team wet and windy weather conditions with heightened workload, increased demand for performance and practically no job security – it is no surprise that January is identified as the most stressful time of the year.

Recent statistics produced by the British Association of Anger Management (BAAM) have found that the extra stresses of the season are having particuarly detrimental effects on the UK’s female workforce.

The survey concluded that stress in women has increased dramatically with 80% of women feeling unsupported, over-worked and insecure in their positions. Worringly, these increased stress levels have resulted in feelings of depression in 60% of cases and anger issues in 43%.

These peturbing statistics raise the question – is the workplace ill-equipped to deal with the needs of women and is this lack of empathy for the female workforce creating the increased stress which leads to depression and anger?

Mike Fisher, BAAM’s Founder, highlights the dramatic...

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